Horatio

So, this is going to be a bit of a challenge, but at least I have some answers. I'm the type of person that wants to help as much as possible, especially when it comes to Phil because I care about him so much, and hate seeing him distressed by anything, and there's nothing I can do for him since he wants to deal with it himself. Not knowing, and not being able to do anything is hard for me. Phil says he's always had a hard time sharing and communicating with people, so it's hard for him too. So, it's going to be tough, but at least now we understand each other a little bit better. Work sounds like it will be a good summer for you with a great group of people. Wonderful! You are off to a great start. As for Phil, I am glad that you have gotten to a point where you realize it is not you. It is understandable that you want to help as much as possible as you both have a great relationship. Knowing this, hopefully you can get through Phil not being as open as you would like. This is the hardest part, but I am certain you will be able to focus on the future and this tough period will be over soon. As you know, we are here for you.

Ohhh I've always wanted to visit there! It looks like such a beautiful laid back type of place! I will try and take a couple of photographs. Puerto Rico is a beautiful place. For a holiday they have wonderful beaches and it is a very laid back place.

Hello from Puerto Rico!

Have fun tonight! Tonight is also my school's senior prom. (Junior prom was 1 May) I should post pictures...I haven't posted any on FB yet either... ~Liz *waits for pictures from Dog Lover*

*wonders how the prom went*

Occasionally I try to be so clever But then it backfires.

Yes you have! Please don't stay away so long. We miss you when you do.

I'm coming to your house. Those sound really delicious!!!!!

*hugs* I'm so sorry you are having a really bad time. If only there was something I could do to help.

Sleeping.

Not good. Good luck on the exam.

SAMMY THE HAMSTER !!!!!!!!! Welcome back!!!!!!! Of course we remember you! I will give you a link and please agree to the terms and then we can get you approved for your posts to appear immediately. How have you been? The Biggest Fan of Fuzzy, you probably remember him as MoneyLover, has his prom this evening. Jesse, Jesusfreak, Kep, Leguan, Lexxscrapham and LifesEagle are all in college. Then there are lots of other people you remember and who remember you. I will have to think of all the name changes to get you caught up on everyone. What kind of job do you have for this summer? Jesusfreak is working at Dairy Queen. Hopefully you will come back and be a regular poster. Here is the link: http://www.hampsterboard.com/board/index.php?showtopic=5277

Sammy The Hamster... please read the first post, then make a post saying you agree to the terms. Thanks. Horatio

Are you talking immediately after, as in 'after-prom activities' or the days and weeks following? If it is the days and weeks after and I get awarded Paris, you can plan your next trip to visit me. Immediately. My retired French teacher is going to Paris on June 1st. I plan on climbing into her suitcase. Immediately... good luck on that. Are there after-prom parties that might interest you? Make sure you pack some food and water for the trip. Also bring a couple blankets, the luggage compartment tends not to have good flight attendant service. If I could go back to France, I wouldn't mind staying down there! That would be one lonnnnnnnnnngggggg flight. But entirely worth it! Very, very true! So... I guess I won't tell you that next month I plan on going to Paris for the day.

Yes, communication is important, but there are times when someone just has to sort things out in their own head. Give him time. If you push, it may only keep him from talking. So, just treat Phil like nothing is wrong and don't worry about him not telling you everything. It will happen, he just needs to know you are there with him and you can give him the support he needs without him spilling his guts. Well the problem isn't so much him not telling me everything as that he acts differently when he's preoccupied with something, and then insists that nothing is wrong, when something clearly is. And naturally, since I see the effects of his being bothered by something in the form of him being super quiet and sounding annoyed with me, I start to worry that it has something to do with me, and I worry that something is upsetting him, because I don't like seeing him upset whether it's my fault or not. So, I'd be okay even if he just told me a general thing about what's bothering him and saying he doesn't want to talk about it. That would be fine. But knowing nothing at all scares me for some reason. Also, when he gets like this, the way he acts towards me makes me question how he feels about me, since he tends to act like he's annoyed with me when he's upset over something. Like, I asked when I get to see him again, and he said, "idk, I have work late for the next four days or more, and I have to eat dinner." Now, I hang out with him after dinner with no problems, so statements like this make it sound like he doesn't care about seeing me, which is really discouraging. Now, he was acting like this around finals, so I dismissed it as finals stress, but now he's home, and I have no idea what's causing this. My guess is that Phil is back home under his grandparents roof and their rules. This has to be extremely stressful. He has lived at college with his own rules as to when he will be on the computer, when he can come and go and now he is back home being treated like a kid. This must be hard for him. Please believe in yourself that the relationship you both have is a good one. Please give him time. It is not you. I got to see him today when I went grocery shopping, which was good. I know our relationship is good, but it bothers me how little we've been talking lately. Unfortunately, I was unable to talk to him about that today. >_ It was good that you were unable to discuss what was on your mind. Work is never a good place for that. ohgosh I'd never bring something like that up while he's at work. I wanted to talk to him online about it lol. My apologies for reading too fast. I thought you were going to talk to him at the grocery store. If you don't mind a suggestion... why don't you let the talk go for a couple days. Let him sort things out for himself. I think you will find he will come around.

Sorry to say this, but your mother will probably make a big deal out of it. So, just smile and let her take pictures. Get a picture of the corsage you are getting your date so we can see. No problem ditching the first group of friends to hang out later with another. You will have a great time with both group of friends. No need to be nervous. Post photos... Please!

Are you talking immediately after, as in 'after-prom activities' or the days and weeks following? If it is the days and weeks after and I get awarded Paris, you can plan your next trip to visit me. Immediately. My retired French teacher is going to Paris on June 1st. I plan on climbing into her suitcase. Immediately... good luck on that. Are there after-prom parties that might interest you? Make sure you pack some food and water for the trip. Also bring a couple blankets, the luggage compartment tends not to have good flight attendant service. If I could go back to France, I wouldn't mind staying down there! That would be one lonnnnnnnnnngggggg flight.

Yes, communication is important, but there are times when someone just has to sort things out in their own head. Give him time. If you push, it may only keep him from talking. So, just treat Phil like nothing is wrong and don't worry about him not telling you everything. It will happen, he just needs to know you are there with him and you can give him the support he needs without him spilling his guts. Well the problem isn't so much him not telling me everything as that he acts differently when he's preoccupied with something, and then insists that nothing is wrong, when something clearly is. And naturally, since I see the effects of his being bothered by something in the form of him being super quiet and sounding annoyed with me, I start to worry that it has something to do with me, and I worry that something is upsetting him, because I don't like seeing him upset whether it's my fault or not. So, I'd be okay even if he just told me a general thing about what's bothering him and saying he doesn't want to talk about it. That would be fine. But knowing nothing at all scares me for some reason. Also, when he gets like this, the way he acts towards me makes me question how he feels about me, since he tends to act like he's annoyed with me when he's upset over something. Like, I asked when I get to see him again, and he said, "idk, I have work late for the next four days or more, and I have to eat dinner." Now, I hang out with him after dinner with no problems, so statements like this make it sound like he doesn't care about seeing me, which is really discouraging. Now, he was acting like this around finals, so I dismissed it as finals stress, but now he's home, and I have no idea what's causing this. My guess is that Phil is back home under his grandparents roof and their rules. This has to be extremely stressful. He has lived at college with his own rules as to when he will be on the computer, when he can come and go and now he is back home being treated like a kid. This must be hard for him. Please believe in yourself that the relationship you both have is a good one. Please give him time. It is not you. I got to see him today when I went grocery shopping, which was good. I know our relationship is good, but it bothers me how little we've been talking lately. Unfortunately, I was unable to talk to him about that today. >_ It was good that you were unable to discuss what was on your mind. Work is never a good place for that.

You do have a good time with your drum corps. An updated computer will be excellent as we definitely need to see pictures.

Are you talking immediately after, as in 'after-prom activities' or the days and weeks following? If it is the days and weeks after and I get awarded Paris, you can plan your next trip to visit me. Immediately. My retired French teacher is going to Paris on June 1st. I plan on climbing into her suitcase. Immediately... good luck on that. Are there after-prom parties that might interest you? Make sure you pack some food and water for the trip. Also bring a couple blankets, the luggage compartment tends not to have good flight attendant service.

Are you talking immediately after, as in 'after-prom activities' or the days and weeks following? If it is the days and weeks after and I get awarded Paris, you can plan your next trip to visit me.

Thanks. I needed that. What did you think of that airplane picture? Is there any significance to it? Would that make a difference? I like that old airplane. Is it just an old airplane or is there more to it that I'm missing? It is an old airplane that is called a Curtiss Commando (C-46). It flew The Hump in World War II. This is my favorite airplane of all time. This particular airplane flew in Alaska and then down in Miami. But I must admit, you are pretty intuitive. For other news... for the first practice bid, I can hold Paris. Let's hope this trend continues and I can hold it when the bid closes. June 2nd is the next practice bid. Let's see what happens. How exactly does this bid work? We have a seniority system which means that many of the options we have are handed out in the order you were hired. For example, every month we have a work schedule bid. This means that we have to bid for our monthly schedules each month and in the order we were hired is who gets to make the first choice. On the Airbus, I am bidding about 267 out of 488 captains. So, there are 266 people in front of me that will get to choose which schedule they want to work. That is called the monthly bid. In a system bid, this means that all the pilots are bidding on which airplanes and which seat (captain, first officer, second officer) they want to fly. These are also filled in the seniority order. (First hired gets the first choice.) In the overall system, I am bidding in the low 1300's out of 4700 plus pilots. Now you have to choose between three things, airplane, seat position, and domicile. For example, the MD-11 has three domiciles, Memphis, Anchorage and Los Angeles. The A-300 has three domiciles, Memphis, Hong Kong and the new domicile, Paris. So, you put combinations of what you want to fly and there are a set number of openings in each airplane, seat (captain, first officer, second officer) and domicile combination. When the seats are filled you will get the opening that is available when it is your turn to bid. At the moment, I would be number 27 out of 43. But this is the first practice bid and there will be a couple more before the bid closes. There is a lot that can change. Hope I have not totally confused you., I got it for the most part. The part that confused me before was when you said bid, I was thinking money. Sort of like money. The bigger the airplane, the higher the seat, the more the money. For example, next month, on our monthly bid, I was awarded Lubbock. My trips will be back and forth from Memphis to Lubbock and return.

Thank you one and all for these wonderful haikus I am so flattered.

She sings that song in such a memorable way. She's amazing. I ordered one of her anthology box sets today. I have seen so many of her films in the past month or two and I still have many more to see and I love watching her perform. I saw "Tea for Two" today which had some amazing taps. I've been doing The Charleston all day! Judy is a Punk - The Ramones Hamsters can't dance. Lara Fabian. Are you being ironic? No, I am being totally, brutally honest. I have four left feet, a rounded, plump body and couldn't dance my way out of a paper bag if my life depended on it. The Charleston? If I attempted such a difficult dance I would embarrass myself.

Yes, communication is important, but there are times when someone just has to sort things out in their own head. Give him time. If you push, it may only keep him from talking. So, just treat Phil like nothing is wrong and don't worry about him not telling you everything. It will happen, he just needs to know you are there with him and you can give him the support he needs without him spilling his guts. Well the problem isn't so much him not telling me everything as that he acts differently when he's preoccupied with something, and then insists that nothing is wrong, when something clearly is. And naturally, since I see the effects of his being bothered by something in the form of him being super quiet and sounding annoyed with me, I start to worry that it has something to do with me, and I worry that something is upsetting him, because I don't like seeing him upset whether it's my fault or not. So, I'd be okay even if he just told me a general thing about what's bothering him and saying he doesn't want to talk about it. That would be fine. But knowing nothing at all scares me for some reason. Also, when he gets like this, the way he acts towards me makes me question how he feels about me, since he tends to act like he's annoyed with me when he's upset over something. Like, I asked when I get to see him again, and he said, "idk, I have work late for the next four days or more, and I have to eat dinner." Now, I hang out with him after dinner with no problems, so statements like this make it sound like he doesn't care about seeing me, which is really discouraging. Now, he was acting like this around finals, so I dismissed it as finals stress, but now he's home, and I have no idea what's causing this. My guess is that Phil is back home under his grandparents roof and their rules. This has to be extremely stressful. He has lived at college with his own rules as to when he will be on the computer, when he can come and go and now he is back home being treated like a kid. This must be hard for him. Please believe in yourself that the relationship you both have is a good one. Please give him time. It is not you.